How I comfort myself with depression
I'm 21 and I haven't had any "experiences" yet. I hate it when guys are only nice to me to get closer to my pretty female friends. I get so sick of this that I don't hang out with anyone anymore because they're always talking about their bf. Guys ignore me when I try to be friends with them (I dare not even dream about them having a romantic interest in me), while they practically make a fool of themselves going out of the way to impress prettier girls around me. I've never been to a club because I know that it'll just be depressing seeing everyone get hit on except me.
This is how I comfort myself at the moment:
- you are not alone in this world. it just seems like the only victim because it's happening to yourself. For every gorgeous attention getting girl, there are lots of other girls feeling left out. Think about it, notice all the guys u know (workplace,school)...and realize that probably out of the 15 guys in your class, only 1 or 2 have the charm that make girls want them.we girls only feel worst because the odds are higher for girls, and yet we're not one of the lucky ones.
- There are lots of worst cases out there, where people are so disfigured their family find it hard to love them. So we're both lucky we have friends and family. Not to mention we're just average, not ugly.
- You've lower chances of contracting STDs since you're not sexually active. (I'm proud to be a virgin at my age, but I do want to get attention from guys.)
-Exercising does help relieve those suicidal thoughts. Its stimulates endorphin release in the brain and makes us happier.
- However, i do believe in constructive actions rather than moping around and I'm studying hard and saving up for plastic surgery. I'm putting aside feeling depressed, and neglecting my social life for a few years. What is a little bit of sacrifice for a happier life after that? To me cosmetic surgery is no different from getting braces or veneers. My only fear are the risk involved and that it might turn out bad. I've read about so many forum stories where girls who had undergone successful surgeries saying that after their transformation from ugly duckling to swan, they experience a significant improvement in the way guys (and girls, and bosses) treat you.
Take care and hope you realize that feeling suicidal occasionally is ok, as long as you don't act it out. Channel that energy somewhere else productive! Every cent u save from not buying alcohol goes towards buying a more permanent happiness.